Sometimes we moms have to ask ourselves dumb questions in order to be shaken out of our guilt. The question of chicken prepped at the store deli came up between two friends and me last week. We were out on the town, enjoying wine and cheese at a fundraiser without husbands or kids. In spite of the silent auction, live music, and elegant atmosphere, our conversation turned to home life, the place so dear to us. And that led to a discussion about how hard it can be to get dinner on the table at night.
Have you ever asked yourself:
- “Is it okay to buy cooked chicken or serve grilled cheese sandwiches?”
- “What about purchasing gourmet meals that are ready to eat?”
- “What about having ingredients shipped to my house so I can cook, but won’t have to shop?”
- “What about frozen pizza or pancakes for dinner?”
- “What if our husbands cook? What if our kids cook? What if the guy at the deli cooks?”
Why, Studious Moms, is this even a conversation?
Maybe we should launch the conversation with this question: Since the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 had servant girls, why can’t we?
As modern virtuous women, we really can trust our gut in delegating and prioritizing our time. We can rejoice in modern conveniences and are completely free to use them. Food that comes ready to eat enables us to enjoy and serve our families in other ways. For example, the 30 minutes we save because we don’t have to prep poultry can be spent reading to our daughters, shooting baskets with our sons, and cuddling our babies, our husbands, and our aging parents. If we think the kids care who roasts the bird we bring home, we are sorely mistaken. Children want a peaceful mother. They do not want an ornery chef running around the kitchen like a chicken with her head cut off.
So let’s let go of the guilt we feel about food, along with the chip on our shoulders and whatever it is we’ve been trying to prove. Let’s not be too chicken to check out the local deli or the frozen food aisle. If the Proverbs 31 woman had help, we 21st century women can have help too. It may not look like it did long ago. The nice man donned in a hair net behind the deli counter doesn’t work at your house, but he makes darn good chicken! Why should you feel shame for serving that?
What a great question.