Motherhood Misery #6: I Thought Working Moms Had it Better

We humans have a grass-is-greener mind about many things. This played out in my head early in my mothering years when I assumed that my daily life at home with the kids was worse than the daily life of working moms. My thoughts went something like this: They get to dress up while I wear … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #6: I Thought Working Moms Had it Better

Motherhood Misery #5: I Didn’t Focus Enough on Myself

Mothers win the prize for sacrifice. Seriously. The degree to which moms forsake, forego, and forget our own needs and desires...it’s pretty admirable, but it’s also dangerous.  “Family first,” is a spiritual and appropriate thing, but only when it’s done right. How do you know when it’s done wrong? You’re  mostly miserable. It’s not motherhood … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #5: I Didn’t Focus Enough on Myself

Motherhood Misery#4: I was Insecure

Like any new mother, I had a normal amount of insecurity tied to duties I had never done before. It’s normal to feel clueless or scared as our children walk through various stages of growth. The wisdom needed for each season is always shifting. But the insecurity I’m talking about today has less to do … Continue reading Motherhood Misery#4: I was Insecure

Motherhood Misery #3: I Was a Perfectionist

I have a Type-A personality, so it’s no surprise that perfectionism was a problem as I raised my children. But even the most disorganized, free spirit is a perfectionist mom. How? Remember that snake I referred to in the first post? Think back to another woman hanging out amongst the trees in Genesis. The snake … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #3: I Was a Perfectionist

Motherhood Misery #2: I Didn’t Realize How Hard it is to Love Children

Babies are easy to love. Whining, needy toddlers and teens, not so much. I’m not talking about the commitment part of love. I am talking about loving behavior. When I struggled with anger and impatience; when I yelled or got tired of child care, I thought I was a bad mom. In reality, daily interaction … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #2: I Didn’t Realize How Hard it is to Love Children

10 Ways “Motherhood” Made Me Miserable: #1 I was all wrong about mothering

Over the course of ten blog posts, I’ll outline the ways I was miserable when my children were younger. I love being candid about motherhood. Exposing my negative feelings affirms those who feel similarly and paints a realistic picture of mothering trials. But don’t misunderstand. Motherhood was not really the reason for my misery. Mothering … Continue reading 10 Ways “Motherhood” Made Me Miserable: #1 I was all wrong about mothering