How To Respond to Racial Tension: Thoughts for Christmas Eve

In a few short years our children and grandchildren will ask us what we remember about the racial tension of 2014. I know they’ll ask us because my daughter recently had to interview someone who remembers the Cuban Missile Crisis. Years from now, students will be asked by their college professors to interview us after … Continue reading How To Respond to Racial Tension: Thoughts for Christmas Eve

Motherhood Misery #9: I Was Obsessed with Having a Clean House

Every mother has to have a cleaning standard if she wants an orderly home. For years, mine was truly absurd: “My house has to be clean all the time the way it would be clean for guests.” Needless to say this mindset made me miserable. My intentions were good. I really believed it would be … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #9: I Was Obsessed with Having a Clean House

Motherhood Misery #7: I Devalued My Time & Talents

First of all, I mentioned earlier that I took a lot of criticism from my grandmother because she felt staying home with my children didn’t require the use of my mind. She meant well, but she was wrong. It takes brains to instill a conscience and a work ethic in children. Keeping house, paying bills, … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #7: I Devalued My Time & Talents

Motherhood Misery #6: I Thought Working Moms Had it Better

We humans have a grass-is-greener mind about many things. This played out in my head early in my mothering years when I assumed that my daily life at home with the kids was worse than the daily life of working moms. My thoughts went something like this: They get to dress up while I wear … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #6: I Thought Working Moms Had it Better

Motherhood Misery #5: I Didn’t Focus Enough on Myself

Mothers win the prize for sacrifice. Seriously. The degree to which moms forsake, forego, and forget our own needs and desires...it’s pretty admirable, but it’s also dangerous.  “Family first,” is a spiritual and appropriate thing, but only when it’s done right. How do you know when it’s done wrong? You’re  mostly miserable. It’s not motherhood … Continue reading Motherhood Misery #5: I Didn’t Focus Enough on Myself